December 21 – Future Self. Imagine yourself five years from now. What advice would you give your current self for the year ahead? (Bonus: Write a note to yourself 10 years ago. What would you tell your younger self?) (Author: Jenny Blake)
Dear Future Self,
Hang in there, lady! Every young person struggles - financially, emotionally, mentally, physically - there is a constant internal struggle when you're in your twenties to show the world you can survive on your own. Fact: surviving on your own is tough! It's okay that you haven't accomplished every single thing you dreamed you would.
My advice to you is to learn to be present in the moment more and practice it daily. When you have people you love around you to visit, don't constantly be wondering if you've missed anything in your cleaning. If you are worrying about mundane things that they most likely wouldn't notice anyway, you're missing out on wonderful conversation and memories. Be present!
Continue to trust. Trust that God has a plan for you and that you're going to be okay. Trust in the people who love you. Sure, they can hurt you, but trust that they won't do so intentionally and love with your heart wide open. Who knows - five years from now you may be married with children, and that's a brand new kind of love. If you do have kids in five years, trust yourself there too. Nobody knows what they're doing right out of the gate, but you'll figure it out. You're pretty smart.
Finally, take lots of pictures and remember the good times you have and the memories you make. Take your time and store them in a good way so you can relive the great moments in your life again and again. Smile at them. Laugh at them. Cry because of them. It doesn't matter what you do - just relive your feelings. Be proud of yourself and what you accomplish. You were always destined to do great things - your past self believes in you!
Dear Younger Chicken Wing,
Girl, buckle up because you're going to be living a whole lotta life in this next decade. You're going to experience graduation and college, new loves and breakups. You'll lose people close to you, and add people to your family (some folks call them friends).
Let's talk about high school, since you're still there. Fact: You won't peak in high school. I know that will be hard for you because being a teenager is hard. You want everything you can't have or don't have. I'm telling you, stay the course.
Don't worry that you were never the prettiest girl in high school (which everyone so desperately wanted to be) - wait until you get to college! (*Hint: you're going to be named Homecoming Queen. Of your college. That's way better than the same honor in high school. Just be patient.)
Fall in love hard, but keep your eyes open to red flags. If something doesn't feel quite right, it's probably because it's not. Don't ignore the feelings because you're too proud - trust your intuition and make difficult decisions.
Finally, just keep living, girl. You are going to be an awesome lady. Keep your head up and keep pushing through the hard times because the best is yet to come. I'll be waiting for you when you get there.
Until next time,